The Power of Delusional Confidence

Welcome to My "Delulu" Era

A few months ago, some of my favorite women who are fellow small business owners, mentors, dream-chasers, and dear friends and I made a pact. Not the kind sealed with blood or pinky promises, but something just as binding: a vow to approach our goals with unbridled delusion in order to break free of people, places, and things (especially jobs) that no longer served us!

Being delusional meant we decided to imagine we were already successful. To believe the connections we needed were already made. To embody the version of ourselves who had already “made it.” Not hustling for scraps, not surviving on “just enough,” but thriving in a life of abundance, generosity, and unapologetic ambition.

At first, it sounded silly. But the truth is, almost every badass woman I know wrestles with imposter syndrome, and it’s exhausting! Delusion, as it turns out, is a pretty damn effective antidote.

Facing the Gutter Goblins

With Bloom and Glow launched, I felt like I needed to wait to be ready for the next phase, the next project. When it came time for me to decide on the next financial leap for my psychedelic coaching business (get more info about that here) with copywriting and website development, my brain told me to be conservative. My inner saboteur (who I call, Gary, the gutter goblin) screamed that I wasn’t worthy of big investments, that I should just get a regular J-O-B with predictable paychecks, a schedule, and busy work!

For a moment, I almost bought into it. The temptation of “consistency” is real. But when I pictured myself clocking in and out somewhere, living only for the necessities, my stomach sank. That life meant throwing away all the work I’d done on myself. I wasn’t about to forget about the healing, the inner child nurturing, the joy of learning, the freedom of the open road, the pride of entrepreneurship, the connection with nature, and the soul-filling friendships.

I realized that settling for “good enough” would also mean betraying the most important project I’ve ever worked on: me!

Why Not Be Delusional?

So, I thought, why not? Why not set goals so big they sound laughable to people on the outside? Why not believe I can create a future where abundance is the baseline, not the bonus? Why not be delusional?

So I shifted my focus to choosing bold, outrageous, delusional confidence and everything changed. EVERYTHING. I made the investments, financial AND emotional. I embodied the future version of myself who already deserved them. No bullshit; It worked!

The opportunities showed up. The right people crossed my path. The momentum built.

The Takeaway

If you’re reading this and the gutter goblins are screaming in your head, I want you to know: you’re not alone, and you’re not crazy! As a woman (especially if you’re a single, child-free woman) it’s brave to imagine more for yourself. It’s brave to laugh in the face of scarcity and whisper, “Actually, I deserve more.”

Delusion, it turns out, is just another word for radical self-belief. I highly recommend it!

In upcoming blogs I’ll be honoring the women around me who are part of my squad, and I can't wait to give them the recognition they deserve! Stay tuned!